FightOn - I thought I'd just stop by and say "hi". You seem to be doing fairly well mentally but struggling with the "limbo". That's perfectly normal.
I would suggest that your H is indeed "cake-eating" being under the same roof but being able to play in his fairy-tale world too. I don't really know what to suggest. Turning into a screaming harpie is probably a bad idea but making his actions have consequences might be a good one. I'm not sure what to suggest though.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells