Love is a decision - my story

[PacLove]

I was shocked at the examples/slips my W latched on to over the last year where she didn't see me changing.

So I may get face some recourse for saying this but a popular book out there does say that Men and Women think differently in relatinship. It's also something my IC reiterated when we met...

W tend to latch on to things and have a tough time letting go and forgetting. My W still brings stuff up from the beginning of our M. Coincidentally this also makes it harder for them to accept the change and also empathize that we can forgive them for their indiscretions as if it was the other way around they would likely not.

Men/H on the other hand tend to forget more easily or are willing to move on to the next problem/challenge - we are "fix it" people, which is perhaps why so many of us are on here - holding out hope and believing we can change and fix this.

I don't know if there's any forum statistics, but this forum definitely seems to be more skewed to more Men vs. Women, which is interesting especially given that the statistics around A's are skewed the opposite way (More men have A's)