Love is a decision - my story

[PacLove]

She says that it is good that I am doing it but one thing is for sure is that it will take proof over a long period of time.

There is so much truth in that statement, remember you are trying to undo 21 years of "bad habits" and it has only been a a few months. Remember too that they are "very" observant during this time. I was shocked at the examples/slips my W latched on to over the last year where she didn't see me changing.

I have been really focusing it on me since it is all about me becoming the best version of myself. My GAL right now has been going to church and getting involved there, of course my AA witch consist of a lot of my spare time in the evenings which I have been creating a great support group of new friends and people that have really helping me through these tough times. I have also been working out and reading a lot. I do not have any real hobbies but my activities are very healthy and productive that keep me very busy. I do hang out with some of my friends a bit too. It is not so much a career change but a job change since I got laid off in the beginning of December.

Definitely need to find some hobbies, exercise was one of the most important things for me - it was especially helpful through my periods of Anger - work/blow off steam in the gym or on the bike. Support groups are also good, check out any meet ups in your area for Divorce and Separated, I went to one of those for a while and found it helpful. Also went to a Mens Catholic group for a while. Talking helps big time - the forum is great but we tend to miss the real human interactions.

It is one day at a time, then it goes to one week at a time