A stronger me for whatever the future holds

[Seeker7]

PacLove thanks for the complement on my signature. One other thing I wanted to talk about is something I was reading last night.

Yes you can be romantic and you have been romantic with her over the time she has left. Let me explain.

I always thought that romance was about the big things just like most other men. I thought it was how Hollywood showed it. Like a candle light dinner, rose petals to the bedroom with love songs, picnic on the hill top while watching the sun set and many other big things. Those things are all great especially when you are in a good loving MR going both ways. But how can you be romantic everyday. I know that if I bought my W flowers in the past she would see it a romantic but you can not buy her flowers every day because in a short time it would become non romantic and more of a nuisance.

I never looked at the small things that women see as romantic. It was because I did not know and just saw it as Hollywood's version. But it is much simpler than that. They even talk about it on here on suggestions to do. Romance to females is simple as opening the door for her when you go out, pulling the chair out at a restaurant, it is folding the cloths for her when she always does it, it is about taking interest in something she is doing that you usually don't, it is validating her feelings, it is paying complete attention to her when she is talking to you and the list goes on and on.

Like I read in your previous post you have read the book about making love deposits. Romance to females is as simple as that. Granted the big romantic stuff deposits more but the key is to just keep depositing love no mater what size it is and not taking out any withdraws.

When I read about this a light bulb went off. When my W said she was moving out I tried to do stuff for her that I normally never did. Like she always did the laundry and folded the cloths. So I thought that I would fold that cloths for her. She told me that she did not want me doing it. I thought I was just being nice and trying to help. But obviously she saw it a different way.