My WW and the Great Sandi2 Experiment - part 2

[Chris73]

Ugh, I feel like crying and vomiting at the same time.

Yes, I just had an initial consult with a lawyer. Might have been the most depressing hour of my life.

I'm doing all the right things by staying in the house and continuing to be actively involved with my kids. We talked about how things could go depending on how much my W and I agree on the details of a divorce (assets and custody). We talked about a post-nuptial agreement which could help speed things up in the event that one of us files.

The thing that makes me want to vomit is the cost of all this. I am obviously going to need representation regardless of how "fair" my W claims she's going to be. And of course if I have representation, so will she. So now we're talking about spending anywhere between $5-10K to get this done. I just can't understand how she thinks that this would be money well spent as opposed to investing it in college funds for our kids or our retirement.

If things progress in this way I will be in the biggest fight of my life with the person I love the most. It's revolting.

The only silver lining is that she has no intention of making the next move until June. So I absolutely HAVE to spend these next 6 months focusing on DB'ing, GAL'ing and lovingly detaching.