But it is easy to get caught on the bandwagon of being a light house and saving a marriage because we played roles in the breakdown of the marriage.
I think that the above might be true for the rare few percent of posters here. Your marriage can only be saved if your spouse is truly remorseful and begging for you to come back.
A lot of the posters that do implement DBing strategies and have their walkaways come back, end up back on these boards years later because their spouse cheated again.
We are not f'ing light houses. We are not innanimate objects. We are people with feelings that deserve to be in relationships with mutual respect and fidelity. It is ok to let go.
Let him have his OW. They deserve each other. Seriously. Forgive yourself. A good partner would have helped you when you had cancer. Seriously. A good partner would have been there for you when you were pregnant.
Just work on yourself for the next relationship. Work on yourself to be the best mom ever. But let this man and his family go.
