WW confused about the future.

[JRuss]

So make it not so. Make it so you not only have the will to let go, you HAVE let go.

Maybe think about it this way: you've been very successful career-wise. Obviously, when faced with difficult problems in that environment, you've figured out what needs to be done, and you've done those things well. People don't advance otherwise. So you absolutely have everything it takes to detach and rebuild yourself into the Man you want to be, which is a man only a fool would leave. It's a project that needs doing. There are a bunch of elements to that project (you've been told many times in this thread what they are). Get cracking. Do those things and do them well. Your W might notice. She might not. But either way, you'll be free of the pain that's with you constantly right now. That's a great payoff. Make it happen.