JR I think there'd be a lot of value to putting your son in front of an IC. I know if my W and I D that will be one of the first things I do. It seems to be really tough on our kids and having someone to talk to who can make sense of things can only help.
It makes me very happy to know you're feeling better about yourself my friend. You have walked a long road and I know how tired you must be at this point. You just need to continue putting the focus on your kids and yourself. Let W push this thing forward if that's what she chooses. I'm with you and FG though, in that I'm not willing to help her in it.
You also say that you're no longer actively DBing, but by finally getting some detachment that may be the best DB of all. If there's one thing I've come to learn from all ours sitches it's that you never know what will happen. You may be surprised by what detachment brings you. Stay strong brother!
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
