I completely sympathize with wondering if you would ever trust someone again. I have been betrayed in my childhood but for some reason nothing came close to deep violation I felt when my WH cheated. In all honesty I don't think I will ever be in a relationship with someone (if I divorce) until my children are grown.
I am proud of your detaching, you have protected yourself and your child. You have placed boundaries and stuck to them. Strut on little mama!
Last edited by Cadet; 01/10/1707:57 PM. Reason: Start a new thread message
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3
My concern is less about intense limerance but quite the opposite, it's possibly a phase. I just feel like I'm going to struggle to trust someone, there's trusting someone towards my children, and then trusting someone not to hurt me.
You will feel like this. Inevitably. It takes for these feelings to subside. But all feelings ebb and flow. It will just take time. And trust, yes, this too takes time. You have time.
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I do have phases of feeling hurt and disappointed. I do realise that those feelings I have are those towards a person who has long gone.
These feelings will fade. You remember the feelings when others have upset or offended you. You don't feel the same. You remember but you don't feel the feelings so much, if at all.
This will happen. You will trust again - just need to make sure its someone that is trustworthy. All will be happy and you will feel love again. Surfer.
