One other quick tidbit... they are likely seeking the advice and opinions of many others which tears at them and what they really want. The OM is a powerful force, as are their friends and their IC if they are seeing one. What is not a powerful force is us - they have made it clear they have no interest in our opinion right now.
My W shared with me that her IC was pushing her towards D as well as ending the A. But something inside her was fighting back against that.
Do you know if this IC is for marriage? Because one thing I have read from MWD in DR is to find IC or MC that are for M. Also have read it in many other places. I would put it as a boundary that she find someone who is for marriage and that will help her towards that. That is one of the boundaries that I will put into play if I get to the R part.
I agree with you that the OM has big space in her head and just like I have read on here it will be a long process for her to get over it. Just take it one day at a time and stand up for your boundaries so she can respect you for who you are. Now how to approach it is something that I am not to sure about but my thoughts are to make a suggestions on how you feel about that. Like "I feel like you should find xxx because it is something that I have learned for XXX who has helped save lots of marriages." When you put it in to a third person it takes it off of you that you know exactly what to do but instead it puts it on someone else who has a bunch of experience in that mater. IMHO It is about you being a man of of chivalry which is something women want in a man.
Love is a decision. Genuine love is honor put into action, regardless of the cost.
Me:43 W:41 M:21 SS:25 S:19 D:18 BD1:3/16 BD2:10/16 W moves out 10/2/16
