So picking up where things left off, not a lot to report. Present plan is still to divorce this summer so the kids have some time before school starts back up to get used to their new lives shuttling back and forth. I'm keeping the current home for a year so S10 can finish his last year at his current school, then I'll sell it, and we'll split the proceeds. W will need to file in about 90 days or so to keep us on that schedule due to a 90-day required "cooling off" period between filing and final decree. I'm not going to do that for her but am working on detachment so it isn't any harder or traumatic when it happens than it needs to be.
Our kids know it is happening but not the exact timing. My S10 is struggling with it, and I may end up seeing about getting a child psychologist to work with him for a bit; my D13 seems more "ok" with it -- a lot of her classmates are in divorced families, and I don't think she's as fearful. Not sure what to do there other than to tell them they can always talk to me and stay on top of them, watching for any downturns. Any advice form those who've had to do this would be greatly appreciated.
I'm not sure I'm in the right place ("newcomers") here, anymore, since I'm not really actively trying to bust the divorce any longer. I do like keeping in touch with everyone who's been so great for months supporting me, though, and hopefully I can give something back to those maybe just getting into this awful process.
I feel better than I have in a long time. Which maybe isn't great when viewed in isolation, but when I look back and remember just how low I was, it feels good to have weathered that. I like myself a lot more now than I have in several years. Still a work in progress.
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
