MLC W and preparing for S or D in the new year

[Gordie]

ForGump--pulling this over from JRuss's thread as I don't want to hijack his:

W actually said almost this exact same thing to me

Gordie, I believe JRuss's wife did NOT say that. She DOESN'T realize that that is her problem. She believes her happiness is out there somewhere, in Divorceyland.

But ... it's curious, Gordie, that your W would say that, but is looking for happiness outside herself...!!! (I guess MLC/Waywards are irrational).

Yes, I realize JRuss's W did not say that but that JRuss was saying that as encouragement to all of us.

My W said that to me because she feels she no longer needs to be M to be happy...and W wants me to feel the same way. Yes, she thought M and children and being a SAHM would make her happy, but it didn't...instead, it made her feel resentful and used and trapped and frustrated and unfulfilled.

She's says she's detached from the M, but not from me (I still love you). To her, our M is dead and, if there is a new M for us in the future, she wants there to be no traditional expectations (H works outside the home and W is a homemaker). She doesn't know if I have it in me to have to have that type of relationship. Nor does she think we could transition our relationship from point A to point B except possibly after some time apart through S or D.