Chris, this kind of unflinching, clear-eyed look at your wife and your marriage is -- I think -- healthy for detachment, and to recognize that your old marriage is dead, and you have to decide from scratch whether you want to rebuild your marriage and how long you have to go. This is something I've hoped to attain for a long time, and some days I feel like I've made progress, and other days I feel hopelessly stuck in the past.


Me: 50, MLC/WW 45
Young kids
Nov 2015: BD1
Apr 2016: BD2
Jan 2017: W filed
Feb 2017: D final