Please. Talk to a good immigration and divorce lawyer. In 6 months when you start to realize that your WH who has had MULTIPLE affairs is not a prize, you will regret not having had one sooner. Don't make agreements or decisions as of yet and certainly do not make any with the goal of "winning" your husband back. Do what works best for you.
Your in laws will never be on your side. No matter how nice and friendly they seem. Don't trust them and certainly don't pay mind to their opinions on this matter. She's reminding you of your struggles adapting there? WTF? She's justifying and enabling some pretty disgusting behavior on her sons part. Talk to a lawyer ASAP!
OW is a creep for going with a married man with a young child.
If you were single, would you ever go for a man cheating on his wife with a young child? Then why now?
Don't focus on saving a marriage. Focus on saving you.
