A stronger me for whatever the future holds

[PacLove]

If it were me, I'd take it reeeal slow while your W makes this transition. No time limits, no ultimatums. Respond and maintain contact, be warm. But as long as she has contact w/ OM, the content of your conversation should reflect that reality, i.e., don't let your optimism push the conversation too far into the comfortable marriage territory.

But heck, what do I know....

Yup that's kind of the approach I'm taking... slow and basically allowing her to drive the process but at the same time trying to maintain my own self.