Wife has filed for divorce

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I really don't say a lot, I listen, I nod my head in acceptance of what she is saying, I verbally accept responsibility for things about our marriage that she brings up because frankly most of what has happened or she brings up is the truth of our marriage because I have caused her emotional pain.

But I slipped up last week when she was unloading and got a bit defensive and threw some of it back at her, sometimes I struggle with not reacting to what she says properly.

My wife has bottled up her pain for years and we never talked about our issues...I get the silent treatment most of the time like she's trying to pretend I'm not even there and when she does initiate conversation she's usually angry and its tense so I can feel for what you're dealing with.

My situation is different than most here I'm the one that betrayed my wife in the past and its had devastating consequences and I never did the things I needed to do to help her heal over the years because I was caught up in my own angry, stressful, self hatred turmoil...my own ignorance/not knowing what I needed to do

So in my situation my wife is an emotional wreck and she now sees her only way out and to be able to heal is through divorce