Wife has filed for divorce

[Gordie]

When you are validating her negative feelings...what do you actually say? I'm not good at this but am trying to learn.

Re her unloading, I too think it's a positive sign. My DB coach said that if they are still complaining then they still care. It's better than indifference. My W bottles up her feelings and avoids conflict so it takes a lot for her to unload. She actually has to feel emotionally connected to me to do it. When she feels disconnected, I get the silent treatment and icy coldness.