I am happy for you and wish ye luck with the counseling. I hope she is ready for it. Does she seem committed to improving the M?
I hope you will drop by to let us know how it progresses.
On a selfish note I hope to read soon that the two of ye do achieve a full and happy M. I say selfish, though I would be delighted for you, as I personally would like to have an example of someone who stuck it out in house and achieved that full rich loving R we all seek. I am looking for that success story to hold onto in my moments of doubt.
To me you already are a success and a hell of a role model. Maybe one day I will achieve that too. I think my M is not beyond saving. Time will tell.
Good luck again and best wishes
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together