I am happy for you and wish ye luck with the counseling. I hope she is ready for it. Does she seem committed to improving the M?

I hope you will drop by to let us know how it progresses.

On a selfish note I hope to read soon that the two of ye do achieve a full and happy M. I say selfish, though I would be delighted for you, as I personally would like to have an example of someone who stuck it out in house and achieved that full rich loving R we all seek. I am looking for that success story to hold onto in my moments of doubt.

To me you already are a success and a hell of a role model. Maybe one day I will achieve that too. I think my M is not beyond saving. Time will tell.

Good luck again and best wishes


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together