Over the last 48 hours, W has been acting differently, doing her own 180s. She hasn't said anything and we haven't had any R talks, it's just a vibe I'm getting.
*About 10 days ago, I was getting the vibe that she was uncomfortable with our regular hello and goodbye kisses on the cheek, so I stopped. I didn't even know if she'd notice or if she'd feel relieved (maybe the kisses were pursuing). Yesterday, she started kissing me hello and goodbye.
*Today, she texted me out of the blue thanking me for something I did for her yesterday (she usually doesn't do this).
*Yesterday, there was the request to snuggle in bed (no ML) and touched me non-sexually, a lot more than recently.
Of course, I'm wondering what is going on in her head, but I'm not going to ask her. As far as I know, she is still full-steam ahead on the separation process (though I have not yet gotten a written proposal from her/her lawyer). Why is she acting this way if she is at the same time plotting our separation? And what do I do if she says she's having second thoughts?
Don't ask why. Don't ask her or us or yourself. She probably doesn't even know. If she says she's having second thoughts, validate but don't get your hopes up.
In the meantime, just enjoy the moments, and don't think about the future.
Have you read about pursuit and distance?
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
