Over the last 48 hours, W has been acting differently, doing her own 180s. She hasn't said anything and we haven't had any R talks, it's just a vibe I'm getting.
*About 10 days ago, I was getting the vibe that she was uncomfortable with our regular hello and goodbye kisses on the cheek, so I stopped. I didn't even know if she'd notice or if she'd feel relieved (maybe the kisses were pursuing). Yesterday, she started kissing me hello and goodbye.
*Today, she texted me out of the blue thanking me for something I did for her yesterday (she usually doesn't do this).
*Yesterday, there was the request to snuggle in bed (no ML) and touched me non-sexually, a lot more than recently.
Of course, I'm wondering what is going on in her head, but I'm not going to ask her. As far as I know, she is still full-steam ahead on the separation process (though I have not yet gotten a written proposal from her/her lawyer). Why is she acting this way if she is at the same time plotting our separation? And what do I do if she says she's having second thoughts?
I don't know that I can speak for your W but I had a bit of this too before BD2. Cuddling out of the blue, kissing etc. and then coldness... emotions go up and down, it's probably her trying/testing to see if there's still "anything" there. I would just keep doing what your doing, stay consistent and non-responsive. you have separate Beds - is that your doing or hers? If she's acknowledged the A I'd draw a pretty hard line that physical contact is not acceptable as long as the A is active.
We still sleep in the same bed and ML. She says she won't start a new R until we S.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
