Working on a Trial Separation Agreement with MLC H

[ccgrrl]

Thanks, AndrewP - I am going to ask her that.
I am not opposed to divorce after a couple has truly tried to work things through and just can't do it, but I do feel like a 27-year relationship deserves one attempt to save it.

I know there are a lot of posts about boundaries and ultimatums, etc. and people on the board seem to often ask the LBS what is the thing they just can't live with. For me, not being given the chance to rectify my mistakes, to even confess my own mistakes after 27 years and two children - half a lifetime together - that is unbearable. And there is a piece of me that feels like saying to my H - if he doesn't want me to contest the divorce (which will drag it out and make it horrible and expensive for everyone) then he needs to work on it with me. But then again, I know that can't work because he can't make himself want to work on it.
Thoughts?