Working on a Trial Separation Agreement with MLC H

[ccgrrl]

Thanks, job. I actually chose her because she IS solution-based. I think what happened was after 50 minutes of both her and me trying to explain the idea of taking baby steps to get to where it really feels like change is happening, he kept saying "oh, so there's not choice but for me to stay miserable or jump in my car and drive away" (paraphrasing, of course). Every baby step that she offered or that I came up with, was not a big enough leap and he used our financial situation as the reason we can't separate. When she asked him to imagine that we had unlimited funds and he could do whatever, what was his plan - he said he had no idea and that he'd probably drift around forever, but all he needs to do right now is "get out of this," because he is suffering.

So she presented him with a step he could take without forcing me to take a step I'm not ready or willing to take (divorce). Unfortunately, she was wrong about the laws and thought he would find that we had to do a separation anyway, so why not start with a trial one...