So sorry you are having a hard time with the MC/IC thing...I don't have any advice on the subject, but can only say that I have been told that when things are still so new, counseling isn't necessarily the best thing. Both parties have to be in it for the right reasons for it to be successful.
In my case, we did the MC thing and my W used it more as a way of convincing herself that we should get a D. She has since followed suit and filed. Good luck to you.
Me 49 W46 T25 M22 S22 D18 S13 W had EA Apr-Jul 2016 Dropped Bomb 7/9/16 ILYBINILWYA HER DIVORCE IS FINAL...8/18/17 Dropping the rope to SURVIVE & THRIVE!!!