You cannot hate someone without also loving them. The opposite of Love is not hate, it is apathy.
SM34, this is beautifully put.
But then I got to thinking about some current political figures, then I realized I can certainly hate people w/o loving them.
Anyway, I think wayward spouses at least CARE ABOUT their LBS's (in some twisted, confused way). But yes, to the extent they are pushing you away, they are attached you.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final