What type of a conversation do you want to have with your W? What do you think is the problem in your situation? Where do you hope to arrive at by the end of your conversation?
As best as I have been able to figure (she tells me nothing, won't talk about R) she doesn't believe that I appreciate her. That is what I have focused on for months now. Giving her space, showing my appreciation when it seemed appropriate. She is also worried about being financially independent but she has to fix that on her own. I do what I can already.
So either I am ineffective or she is just not believing me. If it is something else then I am blind to it.
I hope that I can just tell her how I feel and then ask where she wants to go from here and get an honest answer. If she can tell me something actionable then I would certainly do it for her.
I want her to stop talking to OM and give us a chance but if she will not then I feel like it will still be good to have all in the open and know where I stand.
