for whatever reason she hasn't left.at least not physically. That is great but eventually that will not be enough for me.
I hear you and understand, roist. But don't give up! Let her know what you want and then back off. She is likely to surprise you when you least expect it.
I think you have a good handle on this stuff. You don't want to end up living in resentment like her parents. You got this, roist. Bust On!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl