PacLove, to the extent that you understand your WW... what is the difference, in her mind, between D & S? (Maybe it also depends on the legal framework of where you live). What would an S get her instead of a D?
Also, do you know why your W's IC was pushing her toward a D? Was she just trying to make your W be decisive, take control of her life, and be happy?
The difference is formal vs. informal. To this date she has told very few people about the separation. I think it's a sense of pride and she's also a very private person. Perhaps shame also was a part of it. She didn't want to be seen as someone that was giving up on the M.
As for her IC, he was basically saying our relationship was not healthy and I'm not capable of change. He's Div. himself and TBH didn't really seem like a good IC based on what W has told me about him. I honestly believe he was creating more a divide in our relationship as of late than the OM. too bad...
Me: 40 W: 45 T: 13, M: 11 1 D: 9
Suspect A 6/15 ILBINILWY 8/15, and 3/16 EA/PA Discovered 3/16 EA admitted 3/16 W Moved out 4/16 W opens R talk and says A over 1/17
