I see that you are doing a lot of good stuff. Remember that you can't let her hold your s hostage. As for reconciling, make a plan for what your boundaries are for whatever would be involved in that process. What would she need to do and not do?
I'm about to embark on a similar journey. Keep up the good work!
- m and ww in 30s - s4 - m 11 yrs, t12 -ilybinilwy ~5/16 + request for OM - bd 7/16, confirm ea and strongly suspected pa - 9/16 ww claimed to have broken contact with om
