I appreciate that its not my job to lift her up or fix her, but my concern is that this woman is responsible for looking after my S and I've been there when she wanted to run away from it all. I don't want her to go down the same track.
But where do you draw that boundary?
If shes married to OM, is it still your job? If you are remarried, is it still your job? My point is that it's OK to be concerned, but there's nothing here that suggests your son is in danger. He isnt without shelter or food or clothes or anything like that. Because of that, I wouldnt interfere much, and I wouldnt offer to be there to help with everything. At some point, your W will sink or swim. And if she sinks, then you will be there to make sure your son doesnt go down too.
Honestly, I went through behavior issues with my youngest during the separation. Kids are going to behave differently and respond differently depending on who they are with. I offered some ideas about what I did that was successful with my kids to my ex, but it wasnt up to me how they were implemented when my child wasnt with me.
