One other quick tidbit... they are likely seeking the advice and opinions of many others which tears at them and what they really want. The OM is a powerful force, as are their friends and their IC if they are seeing one. What is not a powerful force is us - they have made it clear they have no interest in our opinion right now.

My W shared with me that her IC was pushing her towards D as well as ending the A. But something inside her was fighting back against that.

Me: 40 W: 45
T: 13, M: 11
1 D: 9

Suspect A 6/15
ILBINILWY 8/15, and 3/16
EA/PA Discovered 3/16
EA admitted 3/16
W Moved out 4/16
W opens R talk and says A over 1/17