Bah-Humbug

[DonH]

So, okay, I too see people bounce in and out of new Rs but are they quality? And if so, why do they leave? See as I looked at it in my life, they ARE SETTELING for less than. They will often take the first person who comes along. They would take the plumber because they would rather have him than no one. Is this the case in your life with your friends? I'll bet it is. So while I've felt and at times still feel exactly like you do, the real truth is you could be going from guy to guy too, you just set the bar higher than they do. If you took anything or anyone you'd be with someone right now. That's not you (or me) and quality takes time and are farther and fewer between.

As for gym guy, why do you have to hide his secret? Why can't you just say something like "I make a practice of googling anyone I might date. I need to protect my daughter and myself and feel that's the best practice. Then just leave it at that for them to figure out. If they press you with "what do you mean? Say, just that, I check out anyone I might date and say no more.