I do think is a valid question to answer. I respectfully disagree, Vapo. It had nothing to do with her giving up.
I'm glad you chimed in. I felt that this was a situation that I should be honest and true to myself fo I did respond. Here is the remainder of the conversation: W-Your reasoning and motive behind your thoughts. Do you feel an obligation because we are married... Me-No, it's not out of obligation. It's because I love you and you are my whole world, and because with us getting help I truly believe we can have a happy and healthy relationship. My counselor believes the same thing but she only knows my side of all of this. Of course I've explained my faults in the marriage and she is adamant that they are stereotypical marital issues that are surmountable W-Ok thank you for being so honest Me-anytime
Now, I believe this goes against all of the DB rules. However, I feel like this was a time that I should be true to myself and be honest about the way that I feel. All of what I said was 100% true. My counselor is truly adamant that if my W and I would just try at this point we could definitely get a very happy and healthy marriage. I am making monumental progress on some personality traits that will be permanently changed for the better after this. While it will most likely take some "maintenance" therapy sessions for a very long time to come, I am more than willing to do this for myself and my future relationship whether that be with my W, or someone else. I truly hope it is with my W though of course. These changes are also improving my other relationships, especially professionally.
