Had a pretty good weekend. I have the kids on Saturdays since w works and we went skating most of the afternoon so we kept busy and today I packed up all the Christmas decor. This afternoon w texted because they left their gloves and was agitated to have to come get them. I think she wanted me to bring them over. Later she called because the kids wanted to come over when she went to get a table from a show house at her work. She texted a little later that she didn't have the tools and was having to make several trips. I made a joke and got a lol back. She was taking forever so I sent a text asking if she was okay and got a id****k lol back. I waited a while and then let her know I would make dinner for the kids. She texted again later about having trouble and she would be over soon so I told her there was a glass of wine waiting if she wanted it and got a heck yes back. When she got here she had a glass and also ate dinner which she hasn't done since this fall. We also talked awhile before they left. She was being nice for a change. She sent me a picture of it later so I validated with a short reply and got a nice thank you. I think she wanted it for her troubles. Idk if she wanted my help with it or not but since she didn't ask I didn't offer. A 180 for me but I felt bad she did it all alone.
something she said yesterday let me see she is still projecting her parents onto me. I've known she's been doing this since I got a grip on things but this was very blunt. She told me "I know you think I'm stupid." I certainly don't and I've never said anything like that to her. In fact she is very intelligent and I've told her that. She told me before her parents told her this (actually much worse) throughout her childhood and teens so now it's getting projected on me. I told her I certainly didn't think that and asked when I've ever said anything like that. She said yesterday when I texted about the puppies. I told her I didn't think that and never have. She kind of scoffed and dropped it. How should I handle direct projection like this? Tell her I don't feel that way and apologize that she feels that way? i know its part of the MLC and the fog but it couldn't be further from reality.
