Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 8

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Gump, I read just a few of your posts.
Usually deadlines don't work well on MLCers, it will just push them even more. But boundaries work pretty well, at first they will fight them.
According to what I read your wife is full "cake eating" she is using you for her needs (free time. money, lodging, taking care of the kids...). May be you should review those boundaries?
Getting mad or upset are a big NO NO.
Remember that a extremely long journey, stop trying to solve it in a few days or months, trying to rush it won't get you anywhere. Be patient and detach +++ (stop reacting to her, stop looking at her with puppy eyes if you do, stop trying to figure out what she wants, what about what do you want right now and it's ok to re-assess later on but at least have a idea for now.. sorry for the 2X4).
Also in you case, do you know if your wife as an OM?
I will try to post later or tomorrow on your post.