MLC W and preparing for S or D in the new year

[Gordie]

She suffered post partum depression after #3. She does not show any signs of wanting to hurt herself or the children. One sibling in a stable marriage. She started making major changes in her appearance, beliefs, friends and ambitions five years ago. My failure was not being her cheerleader during this period. I supported her in providing funds for her to travel, take classes and start her business. She is appreciative of this but she says I could have done so much more, which is true. I didn't appreciate all the positive changes she was making in her life. At my worst, I either ignored or was critical of her changes.