Bingo. She's going to need therapy to get overcome that before she can be stable emotionally. But that's for another phase in her life.

So OM isn't much of an OM at this point. She's in a full blown fantasy. Even delusional as ForGump said.

What do you think you did to contribute to her feelings?

Do you think she's been unhappy that long or is she re writing history?

Does she have siblings? How is their married life?

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017