I'm sure you've read every book on sexual attraction. Why do you think she lost the sexual attraction? Have you guys ever seen a sex therapist? Your situation breaks my heart.

Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving