Working on a Trial Separation Agreement with MLC H

[SBJ]

I am going to have to be sensitive to his needs while also not expecting him to meet any of my needs. I basically have another child in the house and I have to have my own adult life and address my own needs + those of the actual children in the house, and still be sensitive to his needs for space and autonomy. And yet, I can't for one minute think that this person—who had been my best friend since I was 18 y,o., (I'm 45 now)—will be willing or able to meet even one bit of my emotional needs.

Am I on the money with that?

I like how you see that...I know it is tough, but your is still in the house. Maybe that says something. Some of us are trying to fight this fight with them out of the house and also with them filing for D.

My W and I have been together for the same length of time and I cannot make sense of this thing either, but it is here nonetheless. I don't believe I will ever really know what she feels is or was missing, but I do know that we could make it work. The only problem is....it takes two to make a M work. That is what I have been struggling with. It's worth it to me to fight for our M...why would one see it as hopeless?