Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 8

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Your coach is right, don't pay too much attention to his behavior (even if it is very irritating), at least he still wants to be part of his children life which is very positive. I read somewhere we are (spouses) the first ones they are disconnecting to and the last ones they are reconnecting to.

Be patient, if there is progress, it will be slow and very subtile, also set up and reinforce boundaries.

Remember he told you he was going to file, so your best shot is now to cool off the situation by not starting anything (verbal fights). It's difficult to rebuild or restart something when the situation is still hot, just somehow accept that.

MlCers mind is very mess up, they don't know what they want, they are in limbo and ambivalent, the more you will try to push them to make a decision or talk about R the more they will run away from you. You cannot speed up the process they have to go through. Take that time to work on you and build memories with your children.

My husband was the best responsive when I was not bringing back the past and not being accusatory or making allusions. It is not easy at all, we are the ones who have been victimized and we are the ones who have to be nice and polite, so unfair.

So glad you are finally able to sleep and take a clearer look at your situation, you are clearly moving from reaction to acting. That's a huge step.