Working on a Trial Separation Agreement with MLC H

[ccgrrl]

Thanks for connecting me to HaWho's threads, as our sitches seem so very similar. I am still working my way through all of it, but I feel very connected to her story, as it is in many respects the same story as mine.

I had a bit of an epiphany while shoveling a foot of snow off the driveway by myself. Maybe this is going to seem like "Duh?" but for me it was meaningful to suddenly see clearly that unless I want to cut and run, I am going to have to be sensitive to his needs while also not expecting him to meet any of my needs. I basically have another child in the house and I have to have my own adult life and address my own needs + those of the actual children in the house, and still be sensitive to his needs for space and autonomy. And yet, I can't for one minute think that this person—who had been my best friend since I was 18 y,o., (I'm 45 now)—will be willing or able to meet even one bit of my emotional needs.

Am I on the money with that?