My WW and the Great Sandi2 Experiment

[Seeker7]

After the BD my W moved out 1 month later and I tried to keep her here. I had not yet started learning anything. Now after 3 months of her being out of the house and all that I have learned I count it as a blessing that she left. I just read the DR book a couple of weeks ago and found this sight. I did do a lot of other reading and talking to people before DR book. I already was following most of the 37 rules. Now that I am with out her in my home it actually has helped me more emotionally and on the GAL process. It allowed me to focus a lot more on what I need to do to become the best version of myself. It has also created some problems for her that she did no foresee. Nothing I did but circumstances of decisions that we make. I know that I have a long way to go and am dedicated to make the journey. So even though right now you think that it [censored] for her to move over time you will see that it will probably be more helpful toward your recover. Just like her seeing you triggers emotions it does go the other way. So me not seeing her much has helped my emotions to get off of the crazy roller coaster ride they were on. Now they are minor ups and downs. I do know for me is that not having her around all the time has really help but you would have never convinced me of that a few months ago.