Thus the insanity of the wayward mind. My WH was the same way with OW, as a matter of fact he asked to go bowling the day after he said he wanted two wives. He was perplexed as to why I said I had not slept a wink in over 24 hours and NO, I don't feel like bowling with you. He said he felt it was possible to love two women equally. Um, sure.
So if you're going to be a purist then follow MWD and your coach's advise and do relationship building things. If your wife suggests you guys go out together then take her up on it. But she has to do the planning, she needs to invest herself. Don't do it for her. While you're out with her don't initiate relationship talks...just BE there and soak up the moment.
Good suggestion re making her do something to make this happen. I usually do all planning for these types of things. It's weird on the surface but also because when W and I go on a weekend together the main thing we do is stay in the hotel room and ML.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
