My WW and the Great Sandi2 Experiment

[Chris73]

Going to need some good advice today.

W approached me this morning to tell me that she was going to change the sheets on the MB and asked to switch with me because her back can't take the couch anymore (as Sandi2 predicted).

She wants to us to get another bed and put it downstairs for me to sleep on. She insists that she needs to be "on the same level as the kids" at night. So she expects me to sleep on the couch until this new bed can be purchased, which will be two to three weeks at the very least.

My initial response was a long pause, followed by, "let me think about it."

She followed up with some additional explaining, to which I responded:

"Do you really want to talk about this right now?"

(We were in the middle of getting the kids ready for the day which includes a birthday party for S8)

She didn't say anything else. So I looked at her and said, "You're telling me that you are going to change the sheets on the bed. The rest of what you've told me is unacceptable."

She said we'll talk later then.

I was really trying to keep things copacetic until we got back from Disney, but it looks like she's making a power play right now and as much as I now have this sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach, I know I'm going to have to respond with tough love. So if/when she brings it up again, I will simply say this:

"I have never kicked you out of our MBR, but you WILL NOT kick ME out of it."

Regardless of the rest of the discussion, I will continue to sleep there, even if she goes to bed before me. There's no lock on the MBR door.

My main worry is that I will either back pedal or get bitter and tell her to go sleep at the OM house if she wants a more comfortable bed. I don't want to do either of those.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I expect this conversation will be happening tonight...