Oh sex drive, what a fickle thing you are. Our sec life fell off the cliff when I became pregnant the first time. A big problem I had was WH only initiated physical affection when he wanted sex. I tried to hint (I should have given concrete examples instead of waiting on WH to mind read) and felt very resentful after a while.

I did the majority of housework and child care (on top of working) and frankly was p*ssed that WH didn't put in his share. I told him over and over again how I needed to feel more support on the homefront and I would have more energy for sex. He said he felt like I was giving him a list of chores.

Do I think you're your wife's "type?" You must be if there was ever good sex between you. I think you have to continue being the hot, sexy guy she met and she will have to work on her own demons. I started going to the gym recently (huge 180 for me) just to build energy and confidence. I want a firm, hot body for my own sake. (I am only 5'1 and 110 lbs so this isn't for weight loss just for building an athletic body)

M 10yrs T 13yrs
BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW
BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off
Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce
April '17-Letting go
2018 D busted
DD8, DS6, DS3