Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #6]

[ForGump]

Gordie, I'm continually tempted to help her, even the divorce process itself. I want to point out which forms to fill out, what numbers to put where, etc. (We are doing a DIY divorce, at least for now). But I stop myself. I need to let her struggle with these things.

But I need to point out something that is somewhat unique about my situation. There is a dimension to my marriage that I don't see in other marriages described here. My wife had ravenously hungry sexual appetite when we were dating, but once we got married our sex life took a nose dive and never really recovered. It always felt like it was on life support. Even as my W was telling me I was the best husband she knows (among all her friends' husbands), even as she was very warm and affectionate in every other way, she was never very interested in me sexually, even though I found her very attractive and we both had (and still do) have strong sex drives. And this is why she says she wants to divorce me. She's always rejected talking about this issue or working on it.

The only way all this makes sense to me is that it's a facet of borderline personality disorder, which I won't get into here ... but, in short, my marriage is built on a shaky foundation, if there is a foundation at all.