I'm no expert but... This works! 4 years since BD

[Gordie]

***It is a turbulent ride and nothing she says or does will make any sense to you. Later on it won't make sense to her either. But right now she probably thinks she knows what she wants and its as clear as day.***

Have you been eavesdropping? W says she has never been more certain in her life.

***She will cycle through being sure its right and being not so sure its right. If you do your part and take care of your end of the issues that caused the death of your marriage, then every time she isn't so sure she will look back at you to try to re validate how correct her decision to leave is. You can make her doubt her decisions during those times, she will get mad and exhibit some anger at your changes, and she will distance more. Thats what folks here call the "touch and go".***

Wow. Yes, she cycles through days when she is really nice and affectionate and then days of being cold and being repelled by my touch. There have been one or two really angry outbursts. I never know what triggers these changes in her moods and try to be more detached and consistent in my behavior, but it's really hard because I am still very attached so her mood swings still do affect me.

***Its all part of the ride. Get strapped in and comfortable. It could be a long one...***

I am inspired by people like you and the others here who bave withstood these multi year roller coasters. You inspire me.