MLC W and preparing for S or D in the new year

[Gordie]

***Also, I'd be suspicious of the idea that she "doesn't want to start something with OM until you are separated". I would bet its already happening.***

Yes, I know this is possible, particularly because they spend time alone with each other when I am at work and the kids are at school. She says that they haven't even had a R defining talk and while she thinks POM has romantic interests she doesn't know for certain.

***No one is leaving a marriage for something they aren't vested in. It can happen very quickly. My wife started to talk to a guy and within 1 week she was sure he was her "sole mate". Its a sickness that your wife is in, and you shouldn't believe what she says.***

She says she is in love with me and POM at the same time, that we are both her soul mates. She says I'm not replaceable but that no one man can meet her needs. POM and I are opposites in every way. The biggest relational difference is that W feels I act in a dominant way towards her and POM acts in a submissive way.