MLC W and preparing for S or D in the new year

[Gordie]

SM34--thank you so much for the encouragement. I could ask you a million questions bu will limit myself:

***You are getting mixed advice from your coach (build connections) and from folks here (tough love). I was in the exact same position also...Personally my advice to you would be to stick with your coach. I did what my coach advised and things worked out. But there is still lots of things to be learned from the good people here. They are simply challenging you, not trying to tell you what to do with your life. They are challenging you to make some changes, to tip the balance a little, and the outcome of such "rocking the boat slightly" would make it easier to decipher the real intentions of your wife.***

Thank you, this puts things in perspective.

***To me it sounds like:
she doesn't want to leave.***

What do you mean? She says she wants me to leave the home. I said I will not until we legally S or D.

***she wants to be SAHM***

Once my youngest became school age, it enabled my W to start her business, but she still spends a lot of time taking care of the kids and the home. She is a superlative home maker and mother, but has said that it's not enough for her. She wants a vocation outside the home and not just any vocation. She wants to be the boss and to be fabulously successful and rich and famous. She resents the fact that she has been a SAHM while I have had a rich and rewarding career, particularly because she thinks she is smarter and more talented than I am.

***she wants you to wait***

I'm not sure what you mean. Do you mean she wants me to wait re dating other women? Do you think that's why she keeps saying that I'm going to re marry before she does? Maybe so, but I also suspect that she thinks I'm incapable of living without a woman to care for me.

*** she uses the excuse "this is what our R needs to grow"***

What do you mean? Yes, she says that. Is this just a manipulation for me to go along with her plan and keep my hope of R alive?

***Heard all these before brother. It is as ForGump said, shes in La La land. Its where all WW/MLC people go to congregate with like minded people who support their nonsense. The 22 year old OM is there too, and in that land there is no need for money and kids don't exist (because Mr Nice Guy will look after them... thats you) ***

This made me laugh...and cry.