I want to make one additional suggestion here, do not make ultimatums unless you are going to follow thru on your end if something isn't done to your liking. Ultimatums do not work w/MLCers and they generally will choose the easiest way of handling things, i.e., running, ignoring and/or filing.
If you have something that you need done, I suggest that you pose your "need" as a question whereby your MLCer can make the decision as to whether he/she wants to do something. They tend to more agreeable if you give them the option of saying yes or no.
If they do something for you, be sure to recognize their efforts and thank them. That goes a long way w/them.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
