MLC W and preparing for S or D in the new year

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Gordie I just read through your sitch quickly. WOW. Its like a flash back from my own story!

You are getting mixed advice from your coach (build connections) and from folks here (tough love). I was in the exact same position also...

Personally my advice to you would be to stick with your coach. I did what my coach advised and things worked out.

But there is still lots of things to be learned from the good people here. They are simply challenging you, not trying to tell you what to do with your life. They are challenging you to make some changes, to tip the balance a little, and the outcome of such "rocking the boat slightly" would make it easier to decipher the real intentions of your wife.

To me it sounds like:
she doesn't want to leave.
she wants to be SAHM
she wants you to wait
she uses the excuse "this is what our R needs to grow"

Heard all these before brother. It is as ForGump said, shes in La La land. Its where all WW/MLC people go to congregate with like minded people who support their nonsense. The 22 year old OM is there too, and in that land there is no need for money and kids don't exist (because Mr Nice Guy will look after them... thats you)

Its an uncomfortable situation to be in, and I can relate my brother. I've been exactly where you are.